Self-Love Heals Betrayal

Avia was avidly listening to her Alchemy teacher. “Avia Alchemy basically means transformation and today we will use alchemy to deal with betrayal and transform it to self-love. Can you tell me your betrayal experience?” asked her teacher.

“So the person from whom I experienced betrays is my husband. he was the only man I ever loved. After marriage I gradually realised that for him his parents were more important than me and also his best friend krisha would always be a priority over me. Somehow I survived all this for 4 years and then I decided to plan a baby with the hope that it would fill the void in my life. And it did! I enjoyed my motherhood. I love my son Rehaan more than any thing. But nothing what so ever changed in the relationship with my husband, over the period of time it became too much to bear because he would talk more with krisha throughout the day than with me. After coming from office he would go to gym and then would everyday sit with his parents to chat. It never really bothered him that we hardly talked. Our relationship was pretty messed up. He was not much of a help as far as Rehaan’s upbringing was also concerned.”

She continued “It is difficult to stay with him. I am a home maker and completely dependent on him financially so I cannot leave him. Also my father being a conservative Gujarati patriarch would refuse to accept me back. I am helpless! I am helpless! I am helpless!” she finished with tears rolling down her cheeks.

Teacher looked in her eyes and firmly but gently told her “One thing you should always remember is that whatever happens to us is our karma. So we just cannot blame anyone else for our plight. Also if we want to be happy in our life we need to let go off the victim mentality. God has given us immense power and nobody can make our life miserable.” Avia nodded her head although those words were not soothing but they did made sense to her.

Teacher continued in her calm voice “So I want you to take the reins of your life in your hands. Tell me how can you convert betrayal into self-love?”

It took Avia a long time to come up with an answer “I will try to love myself. I will put in efforts to take care of myself. I always wanted a career as a writer. I will focus on myself. I will be my own priority.” Saying this somehow made her feel powerful.

Teacher taught her some tools to change her thought process. She explained “Our thoughts are very important because they create our emotions. I want you to keep on mentally affirming yourself that ‘I LOVE MYSELF AND I AM THE CREATOR OF MY HAPPINESS’ throughout the day. This will convert negative thought process into a positive one. Initially it won’t be easy but you will have to persist, there will be times when you feel like you are failing miserably, but trust me its fine. You are retraining your mind to think positive thoughts after feeding it years of crappy thoughts. So just be patient with you.”

Listening to the teacher, sounded really easy but doing it in reality sucked! she felt like ”who the hell! pays attention to thoughts let alone changing them. She decided to give it a shot because she paid a bomb for the course.  There were many times she felt like giving up but somehow she tried her best and by the end of one week she sort of got a hang of it.

The theory seemed to have worked.  She somehow started noticing positive aspects of her husband. He might not talk much with her but he rarely got angry or fought with her, gave her space and was also generous with money. Now she feels a lot less like a loser.  

It has been one year since Avia started using alchemy to convert her negative emotions to positive ones. These are the following changes she made.

-Now she drinks lots of water and her skin looks great.

-she regularly applies oil to her hair and they have become thicker and stronger.

-she started doing yoga daily and her body is toned and her posture has become straight.

-She started working towards her passion for writing and has published one children’s book and the second one is in the pipeline for publishing.

-she is also working on illustrating her own books.

We as a society have attached so much negativity to betraying. We need to learn to change our perception and see it as a sign from the universe telling us that…. IT’S HIGH TIME!!! LOVE YOURSELF!!!….. Love yourself to such an extent that no one in the world can ever betray you.